“The lack of money is the root of all evil.” – Mark Twain

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Redefining Independence in the Financial Context

When discussing financial independence, it is important to define what independence means to you. Independence, by definition, means not depending on another for livelihood or subsistence. While it can be beneficial if you don’t have to rely on someone else for economic support, we should be cautious in our attitudes and beliefs about being independent as women.

The Balance Between Autonomy and Receiving Support

If you claim to be completely independent, it might also imply that no one else in your life will support you. What about clients? Clients are essential for generating income through your products or services. In that regard, clients support you on multiple levels. While striving for autonomy is important, being able to receive is equally crucial.

Personal Reflection on the “Independent Woman” Identity

As I am an “independent” woman, not only financially but in every aspect of my life, this has led me to reflect on how I use this as an expression of who I am. I teach women to achieve financial freedom because I believe in its importance. However, being a very private person who enjoys solitude, I am accustomed to the idea of independence and have taken some time to reconsider the concept by asking myself, am I not limiting what I can experience by being 100% independent? So, if you can relate, consider the following when it comes to your career.

Could Over-Identifying with Independence Repel Clients?

If you consistently identify with the word "independent," could you potentially alienate clients? Originally, we lived in communities that supported one another, whether it was friends, family, partners, or clients, it made no difference. Today, the world has drastically changed, moving towards more isolated lifestyles. Consequently, the whole narrative of independence may foster isolation; if someone isolates themselves, they restrict access to others, including clients.

Step One: Redefine What Financial Freedom Means

First, shift the focus of the story from being independent and financially secure to fostering emotional security and prosperity. If you see yourself as the capable woman you are, one who can create a life aligned with your values and prioritize your own well-being, trusting your innate ability to discern what is beneficial for you and what is not, while remaining true to your authentic self and never allowing anyone to manipulate you into actions that contradict this – it serves as a strong foundation for building your security.

Step Two: Explore Your Money Mindset

Second, you can explore the various types of mindsets surrounding money, including your money personality, money scripts, and money blueprint. This exploration will help you understand the root of your beliefs, fears, and potential limitations, as well as how to change them to feel more empowered and emotionally secure. By adopting a new perspective on your money beliefs, you can also achieve breakthroughs on an emotional level.

Awareness Creates Empowerment

That is why we work on the ingrained perceptions we all hold in various forms, shaped by our backgrounds and other influences throughout our lives. Once we understand these perceptions and can step back to examine why we might have struggled in certain areas, we can adopt new strategies and behaviors to help us foster a healthy emotional state and mindset. From this, financial security can follow as we begin to operate from an empowered state rather than from a victim mindset.

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Too often, people believe that money will provide them with the sense of security they desperately seek within themselves.

If you consistently identify with the word "independent," could you potentially alienate clients?

How to Master Money by Becoming Emotionally Secure

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True security isn’t just about what’s in your bank account; it’s about your sense of safety, worth, and connection. In this post, we explore why mastering money begins with mastering emotional security, and how this shift transforms everything.

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The Illusion of Online Connection

We might not consider it this way in our online world, as we grant everyone “access” online. The issue is whether our isolated online existence influences how we perceive and think about our state of being, which, in turn, affects the energy we project into our online world.

How Emotional Energy Affects Business

If you believe you don’t “need” anyone because you are independent, could that be felt by how you represent yourself online? Could that then be a resistance to bringing in clients and sales? These are just some things to ponder: as people struggle with putting themselves out there, perhaps this could be addressed by a mindset shift that involves stopping to believe you have to be independent of all others to allow for full access to people to do business with.

Consider Replacing “Independence” with “Prosperity”

Consider using alternative vocabulary, such as expressing a desire for prosperity rather than independence. Prosperity, whether you are single or married, and regardless of your financial situation, is defined as the opportunity and freedom for all individuals to thrive. It is supported by an inclusive society with a robust social contract that safeguards everyone’s fundamental rights and security.

Prosperity Begins Within

Cultivating this in society also means nurturing it individually. Therefore, redefine the scope of “independence” in your life specifically. With that understanding, we can proceed to what security means to you.

Emotional Safety Comes Before Financial Safety

If you say I'm financially secure, it means nothing if you're not emotionally safe. It's about creating emotional security first and then financial security because external things offer no real security. If you are in a marriage or relationship without feeling emotionally secure, you can never achieve financial security. You will recognize when you don’t feel emotionally secure in a relationship, on both a subconscious and a conscious level. Even if you have billions in a marriage, it's all superficial and provides a false sense of security without emotional safety.

Emotional Security is the Foundation of Fulfillment

If you lack emotional security with someone, that relationship feels hollow and unfulfilling. It’s clear that you won’t be happy in the long run, even if surrounded by luxuries.

Healthy Emotional Security Attracts Healthy Partnerships

When you prioritize emotional security and freedom, you can attract healthy partners as well. In this case, the amount of money in the relationship becomes irrelevant since each partner establishes their emotional security first. A partnership can thrive only when both partners work together. Whether it's a middle-income or high-income collaboration doesn't matter; what matters is that the partnership is healthy on all levels.

Emotional Insecurity Cancels Out Financial Abundance

Consequently, you can never be truly happy or feel content if you are insecure. The amount of money you possess will make no difference. Too often, people believe that money will provide them with the sense of security they desperately seek within themselves. Certainly, money offers physical security; we’re not debating what money can do for you to lead a materially “good” life. But what if you have all the physical safety and pleasures yet still feel a sense of emptiness or discontent?

Why Emotional Resilience Matters

All the money and possessions can be taken away instantly. When people lack a strong identity separate from their bank accounts, they struggle to cope when it vanishes. While it's natural to feel stressed when we need money and don’t have any, it doesn’t help to fall into a frantic emotional state where you can’t think clearly, as that part of your brain shuts down during such stressful times.

Build Emotional Strength First

That is why it is crucial to build emotional security and strength first so that no matter what happens with your finances, you can stay calm and be resilient more easily. Statistically, over 70% of lottery winners lose it all again, and some end up worse off than before their winnings, and this is the reason why. They never developed the emotional capacity to handle large amounts of money, whether winning or losing. You should not be fazed by the amount you have. Then, you can make rational and responsible decisions when managing your money.

Detach Your Identity from Money

Work on distancing your self-esteem and identity from money and assess how secure you feel. Is it money that makes you feel secure, or does it stem from a more profound belief that you are safe as you are?

What We Truly Want is Emotional Freedom

The keyword is freedom. It's not financial freedom; it's emotional freedom. Many people have money and refer to it as financial freedom, but they don't FEEL free. So, how can we cultivate true emotional freedom for ourselves?

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Carmen Tosca created ProsperWoman as a platform dedicated to helping empower women to heal from abuse and attain economic independence and, ultimately, freedom.

Her work focuses on guiding women through a transformative journey toward financial freedom while fostering personal growth.

She combines her expertise as a Certified Financial Coach with her business and personal experiences, writing articles that address deep-rooted mindset challenges, money behaviors, and self-worth issues that can obstruct women’s paths to financial freedom. She aims to help women who feel stuck, either in toxic relationships where financial abuse occurs or who struggle with a sense of self, to break free and empower themselves both emotionally and economically.

Despite having come from childhood trauma that left Carmen with CPTSD and all the effects that accompany it, she has been resilient in overcoming abusive relationships and establishing financial independence for herself. Her experience motivates her to help other women through similar challenges, enabling them to break free, heal, and thrive.

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